Did you ever have the feeling you were speaking a different language than your client? Well, that’s probably because you were. Even though we are in an English speaking country, we all perceive the world in different ways. It is through those perceptions that we develop our style of communication. For example, some people are emotional thinkers. For an emotional person the feelings are the subject of a conversation. Other people are more mental in their thinking. These people look for the facts and information being offered in a conversation. If you were to put two people with these different kinds of communication together in a therapy setting, you could have miscommunication and frustration for both people.
The emotional communicator would be expressing only the information that had any emotional charge for them. If that did not cover all the details of the situation (which it likely wouldn’t) the mental thinker would be left with no real point of connection in the conversation. For them, it would be like reading every other word in a book rather than the whole sentence. The emotional person wouldn’t feel connected because the feelings they were communicating would not have been shared by both people.
After more than 30 years of working with massage therapists, couples and students, Jackie Woods has discovered that there are four types of thinking styles—spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical. While each one of the communicating styles is very different, they each correlate with a part of us internally. That means that we are naturally equipped to learn how to communicate in each of the four languages. What this means for you as a massage therapist is that you have the opportunity to expand your communication abilities to cover all clients you work with and expand to new ones. Imagine that you were able to learn three additional foreign languages. What would that do for your business and your ability to provide care for a larger population?
Communication is vital to any therapeutic environment. Excellent communication skills create an opening for strong connections with your clients. As with all of our classes at JackieWoods.org however, these tools don’t stop there. When you expand your communication with others, you are expanding and developing all four parts of you. It is through this expansion that you have the opportunity to live an empowered and extraordinary life.


